Wedding Planning gone crazy

I've been doing a lot of wedding planning lately. It's driving me (and, I think J) completely insane. There's so much to do, and not enough time to do it all. I have my dress, J and the groomsmen have their tuxes paid for, and we know where we're doing the reception. Mostly, things are coming along well.

We DON'T have an officiant yet... It's starting to make me nervous. 2 months to go, and no one to perform the wedding yet. The priest that we have been talking to doesn't think that he'll be able to do it in June. J is Catholic... I'm not, and have been previously married. So, there are issues there. I'm not sure what we're going to do about this.

We also still need to find a tux for D. D is almost 4, and finding a somewhat affordable white tux for him is ridiculously difficult. It'll happen, but it's getting frustrating.

My bridesmaids are going to wear black dresses of their choice. Our theme is Broadway Musicals, so they're going to be fancy-ish dresses, but I know that not one style or cut is going to work for everyone, so I'm going with the same color - choose your style. So far this has gotten good reviews from the bridesmaids.

I have one of my bridesmaids that I have no idea how we're going to get her out here. She lives quite a ways away, and doesn't have much money. We've been planning to fly her out here, but I don't know how we're going to afford that, either. But I'm going to do everything in my power to have her here.

One of my other bridesmaids, one of my sisters, is pregnant, and is due a month after the wedding. Unless something bad happens, her doctor said that she would write a note for my sister to fly out here, so we'll see how that goes.

I booked our honeymoon hotel today. We're going to Vegas. It's far enough from home that it feels like we're away, but still close enough to drive. We'll be staying at the Monte Carlo. We got some really good prices on it. We'll be there for 5 days. I'm looking forward to it.

We don't have a florist, and that's stressing me a little, or a photographer, which is stressing me a LOT. My mom is making the cake (I just still need to decide on a style, how big, what we're doing with it, etc.), and we're going to put the food together ourselves, instead of having it catered.

Overall, lots of wedding stress. It's a good type of stress though, as I'm getting necessary things done. I think I'm starting to drive J nuts though. 2 months left to go...

Wedding Stress

I'm so tired of not having money for anything. Doesn't matter if I'm working or not, it always seems like we're struggling. I know a lot of people out there feel the same.

We're planning our wedding right now. We're supposed to get married on June 17th. Luckily with my tax return this year, we were able to put a little bit of money aside specifically for the wedding. Unfortunately, that money has recently had to go to a lot of other things. For example... the car broke down the other day. We completely disintegrated the alternator belt. So, there went over half of what we had left for the wedding. So far, for the wedding, we have purchased my dress and J's ring. That's about it. I don't know what we're going to do. *sigh*

Also on wedding planning... it's frustrating. We've been engaged for over a year already. But, of course, I put off the planning till recently. Which means I have 2 1/2 months. We know where we're doing the ceremony and reception, as I said, I have my dress, and we have a theme in mind. Other than that, we're kind of up in the air. We don't have an officiant yet, we don't have tuxes for the guys, I haven't picked out my bridesmaid's dresses, we have no idea what we're serving at the reception... I feel like it's all falling apart.

And on top of that, I may not end up having all of my bridesmaids. One of my sisters, who was supposed to be a bridesmaid is going to be 8 months pregnant at the time of the wedding. She also lives 3000 miles away. So, she may not be able to come out here for the wedding. One of my other bridesmaids, one of my very best friends ever, lives about the same distance away, but can't afford to fly out here. We were planning on buying her plane ticket, but we can't even afford the freaking tuxes, so I don't know what we're going to do with that.

I keep telling J (semi-jokingly) that we need to just elope in Vegas. His mom would be upset, so I say that we could take her with us. Then we wouldn't have to worry about all the stress and the costs and the craziness. But he won't go for it. He wants to give me the dream wedding, which is great and all, but we can't AFFORD the dream wedding. We're paying for the whole thing ourselves, and it's just getting to be too much. I start looking at wedding plans, ideas, honeymoon stuff, etc., and I just start crying. Getting married shouldn't be this stressful.